Eyes and Escapes

Have u ever been in a situation where you can neither move out/run out of a bad scary situation nor can you push off your own hurting mind reeling with thoughts of insult, sadness and all kinds of negatives in the world. Neither can u run , nor can u quiet ur mind and also u cannot diffuse the situation by finding a solution ( beacuse u r not able to find a solution to diffuse the situation off quickly at that moment). Such thoughts torment u at that moment and not just the moment, later for a few days too. At such situations all u need will be time and space and some calm from other person but u don’t get everything u need all the time from others. We need to create that space for ourselves.

Yes, if u are 30yr old then u might have come across many such situations! What do u do then ? Leave a comment as to what u do in such situations.. 😃

What do I do??

I really didn’t know how to manage such situations until i read Bhagavad Gita. I used to see in many social media platforms to “let Go”; but i didn’t exactly know what letting go means.

The more i tried to let go, the more “attached” i got to the negative flow of thoughts in my mind ( anger and sadness arising out of the other person’s actions).

How the hell can I let go off when the other isn’t Letting it go!?Why me?!
Why is this other person being so unfair ? Is it fair for me to let go rather than fight for justice?
Why not the other person…??
Will the other person realise their fault when i let go?!
Then y let go?

I got more attached to idea that things should be the way I want it to be, i got attached to idea that if i am Letting go what good will the other person do in return to me?

P.S. mind thinks all these questions except one “how to calm my mind”. Deciding a solution in a battle field like mind will rather aggravate the situation or will prove to be a wrong decision later on.

The best solution i found for myself is recollecting what i read from the Gita:

• Everyone is made up of a core of Self which is indistructible and which doesn’t get affected by anything.
• This Self is in our body for a higher purpose. We are born to carry this Self within us.
• All the anger, ego, sadness, happiness, comfort, emotions happens to the mind and not to this indestructible self.
• The body and the mind perishes ( hence the emotions – positive or negative – do perish) but not the Self.

When the mind is perishable, when the emotions are not permanent.. they come and they go… Why get affected by these… Rather than getting affected by these it is possible for us to focus on fulfilling the purpose or atlst finding the purpose of our birth.

When we r focused on our purpose, though our life won’t be a bed of roses but it will be worth living and we ll be carrying our Self to liberation.

True freedom is not getting affected by the dualities of life ( pain and pleasure, happyness or sadness, success or failure). I.e, detachment from expectations. Letting go of expectations.

We need to remember 2 things in those situations

1) detachment : Not expecting the other person or situation to be exactly the way we want, or that they ll realise that they r being unfair; gives us a lot of relief. Everytime everything doesn’t go by our way. We need to let go of our attachment to the thinking that everything should be the way we want. This gives us a lot of freedom and calm.

2) realising the Self: all that the other person does, all the mind race a situation casues, is like dark rain clouds which covers the clear warm blue sky ( learnt this blue sky from headspace). Once the rain stops the black clouds go away and blue sky is uncovered. When we realise this and focus on carrying our Self towards a purpose then we find calm, peace and meaning in life. We have to go on without refraining from our prescribed duties for life and find liberation.

“But those who realize the Self are always satisfied. Having found the source of joy and fulfillment, they no longer seek happiness from the external world. They have nothing to gain or lose by any action; neither people nor things can affect their security.”

Bhagavad Gita chapter 3 verse 17,18

Remembering these and letting the other person be and observe what’s going on without taking it to our own heart and just focusing on our life’s very own purpose is what letting go means to me ..

What about u .. let me know in the comments !